I am the mother of an average child. By average, I simply mean my child is the average learner, average in scoring marks, average in sports and in extra curricular activities. What’s special about him then? NOTHING as per society and school norms. I often get asked, your son must be good in math’s and studies in general… I simply say no, he is not. He is average. Am I ashamed to say this? No.. Should I be lying that he is the best in something which he is not, in front of others? Definitely no. My son is that average child who people fail to notice either for not being at the top or being at the bottom.
People fail to notice his sweet smile, funny talks, tight hugs, friendly personality, kind behavior, mild manners, helpful nature because he is JUST an average child. The school, society celebrates children who are top scorers or good in sports and extracurricular, which rightfully they should. Amidst all this, my average child who is a spectator and cheers his friends with full heart goes unnoticed.
His love for sports (even when he knows he is not going to be selected for school team), his love for music (even though he knows he is not going to be selected for school choir) never diminishes. He does all this to enjoy it rather to compete.
Am I a mother who is not strict with him for not scoring at the top. Yes, I am strict to an extent and have lost my cool many times in the past. His words pierced through me when my 11 year old asked, “mom, do you not respect me”? How many of us thought we should respect children? We adults demand our respect each and every moment of our life. Why not a child?
Among children preparing for IIT, MBBS even at a tender age of 10 years… My average child is talking about travelling the world ,meeting new people and eating different cuisines. My average child might or might not become a doctor, astronaut, scientist. But, he is sure to grow up to be a good person, who will spread cheer.
Last but not least: Notice the average child. All that child wants is a smile or a kind word from us adults for just being himself to give him assurance to trust the world each child is different, so is each Parenting Style!
— Prof Sumathi, Coimbatore (Tamil Nadu)